Women live longer than men. It is a fact.
And not just for a few years.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, women survive men by a solid five years. A century ago that difference was 2.2 years – and worse before 1920 because women died in childbirth.
Today, for every 100 American women aged 65 and over, there are only 77 men. Visit an assisted living or nursing home at some point. The few men you will see will smile.
Is there a good reason women can evade the Grim Reaper for another half a decade? Researchers say there are several biological, behavioral, and social factors. And there is this: women have what most men don’t – a family doctor.
Not only do more women have a general practitioner than men, but women visit their doctors for regular check-ups and – be sure – when they are sick. In fact, the CDC says women are generally 33 percent more likely to see a doctor than men.
We know most of the reasons men don’t see a doctor – time, money, or a personal favorite, being sick isn’t manly. As if you had died of a curable disease. A 2019 study by the Cleveland Clinic found that 65% of men with symptoms or injuries tend to wait for a doctor as long as possible. A whopping 72% of men ages 35 to 54 were even more likely to make it through for as long as possible.
Even more ridiculous was the study that 72% of men would rather do household chores like cleaning the bathroom than go to the doctor.
A new life companion
It’s time to man yourself and find a great family doctor who you can build a long and lasting relationship with.
In terms of relationship, your relationship with your doctor should be right behind your significant other and children. You want this person to become part of the fabric of your life. The better your relationship with your doctor, the more likely he or she – yes, get over it – will realize that you don’t look quite right or are otherwise seeing a subtle sign of illness.
The doctor-patient relationship is based on trust because you are literally trusting her with your life. In this case, if you are asked to turn your head and cough or lie on your left side in the fetal position, you will feel much more comfortable.
Dr. Find Right
To Dr. To find it right, you need to be a educated healthcare consumer. So do your research and look for the four Cs when choosing a doctor – caring, competence, compassion, and compulsiveness.
Most major hospitals have websites that list their doctors and specialties. But the best way to find a doctor is still the old fashioned way – word of mouth. And that word can come in text, email, or carrier pigeon.
Once you have a name, contact the office to see if the practice is adding new patients. If the answer is yes, ask if your insurance is accepted. You should know what hospital affiliation and what privileges the doctor has if you need to be admitted and how long he has been in the practice.
Choosing a young doctor has advantages and disadvantages. On the plus side, it will be easier to schedule an appointment with someone setting up a practice. But a young doctor is unlikely to maneuver around the system as nimbly as an older doctor who has friends and colleagues at all levels. While a young doctor may not have any experience, they may be stuck with the latest medical information.
While age does play a role in choosing your doctor, it shouldn’t be the deciding factor.
Expect your first visit to a new doctor to take a while. What should you expect They want the doctor to focus entirely on you. Does he or she listen to your physical and emotional concerns and take the time to discuss the details with you?
Next comes the physical exam. It’s a dying art, but it’s still an important part of patient care. The concept of the “laying on of hands” by a doctor goes back to Hippocrates, the father of modern medicine. Hippocrates, who lived in the 5th century BC, believed that by laying his hands on a patient, he could pull pain away from the body.
In addition to giving valuable information to the doctor for their assessment, the laying on of hands is the primary way the doctor and patient build trust today. Like it or not, you’ll want a doctor to lay hands on you during a physical procedure.
Can a thorough physical exam be done in seven or eight minutes? No, and you don’t want to be the patient of a doctor who says it can be. This would be analogous to a baseball player who hits against four and only cares about care, competence, compassion, and coercion. This type of visit requires 30 minutes from you and the doctor’s time.
When the doctor finishes, the doctor should review everything that happened during the visit and discuss and schedule follow-up appointments and those with specialists. You should also expect a phone call to discuss the results of any blood tests performed.
As a parting, you might want to think about finding an elementary school this way: this is another step in creating gender equality.